The point of the brownies is to show intention with the purchase/gift. Frosties and such are good, but somewhat generic food gifts. More or less like red, long-stemmed roses. Let me explain: women (and men) generally like both sugar and flowers and also generally like receiving gifts. Any gift given with the correct intentions (the pleasure of the receiver) is a good thing. BUT, gifts come to mean more when they are personal. If long-stemmed red roses are your favorites, great. You've made things easy for your significant other by going with a tried-and-true standard that all men and women understand and that the marketing world has capitalized on. Personally, I'm not much of a fan of roses, especially the red, long-stemmed ones. If someone wanted to buy me roses, I love peach and yellow and the weird colored ones. My favorite flowers are the spring bulbs, and if someone went to the trouble of finding that out, and bought me those instead of the safe, standard roses, it would mean even more. Same with sugar gifts. While susan likes frosties, the fudgy brownie (and his knowledge of her preference) would demonstrate intention and knowledge of the recipient of the gift.
On another note, what the fuck is up with the man-cave phenomenon? How hard is it for guys to just say, email, or telegraph "having a bad day, will talk with you later?" Going AWOL or sending pissy emails, not good. I don't have a problem with giving someone space or time to figure out whatever's going on in his head, but when you are used to talking to someone regularly, when you have establish a normal communication pattern, and suddenly there is none, you start wondering what YOU did wrong. Okay, I can't have done anything -- I haven't seen him. And now I know it's pretty much his issue, not mine. So go into your cave. Just don't shut me out in the process.
06 February 2004
05 February 2004
Yeah, it's been a long day and a longer week, in which, despite working, I have gotten little done.
You can talk everything and anything to death. But it is fatal to talk a relationship, Relationship, or potential Relationship to death WITH the other person involved or potentially involved in it. That's what your friends and your blog are for.
Damn butterflies and stupid bullets in other people's guns. Thank the goddesses underseas that that shit ain't playin' no mo'. Something to be said for progress: Elton John is a very gay man.
Do you think Mike does brownies? Do we need to track him down and "little birdie"-like tell him what a fudgy brownie, all gooey, no nuts, will do for his chances?
You can talk everything and anything to death. But it is fatal to talk a relationship, Relationship, or potential Relationship to death WITH the other person involved or potentially involved in it. That's what your friends and your blog are for.
Damn butterflies and stupid bullets in other people's guns. Thank the goddesses underseas that that shit ain't playin' no mo'. Something to be said for progress: Elton John is a very gay man.
Do you think Mike does brownies? Do we need to track him down and "little birdie"-like tell him what a fudgy brownie, all gooey, no nuts, will do for his chances?
As if guys are the only people who occasionally "mentally" explore the possibility of sex with friends. WHATEVER (Clueless inflection implied). That notion needs to go out the window along with the one that guys always want sex and women don't. Both genders sometimes crave sex and sometimes not-so-much. Human nature there. I think the big difference is that most men I know get more enjoyment out of casual, "meaningless" sex than the women I know.
Susan, despite her bitching, loves the drama, hates the frustration, thrives on the anticipation, and gets off on the very uncertainty that drives her mad. We all do, although fewer of us believe that rules and guidelines would make interpersonal relationships easier. What makes a first kiss so memorable/important? Two things: the anticipation of it, and the uncertainty of how it will turn out. Same thing with Relationships, just a bigger context.
Susan, despite her bitching, loves the drama, hates the frustration, thrives on the anticipation, and gets off on the very uncertainty that drives her mad. We all do, although fewer of us believe that rules and guidelines would make interpersonal relationships easier. What makes a first kiss so memorable/important? Two things: the anticipation of it, and the uncertainty of how it will turn out. Same thing with Relationships, just a bigger context.
Okay, dude, get the FUCK over it and get the fuck over yourself!
Attraction is based on so much more than just looks, and if you review our former significant others en masse, you will notice that what I find attractive and what you find attractive – just physically – have little in common. Mentally what we find attractive in men is similar. Emotionally, not so much. So get OVER it.
Secondly, you do not always need to talk things to death. You are living in a Technicolor world with crazy mad shades of grey and green and blue and pink. I.e. – there ain’t no black and white. Mike’s vague comment after your not-date was certifiably applicable only to the date: it was not a date. End of story. You can extrapolate it back to mean that he isn’t interested, which may or may not be what he meant. But for right now, he has offered you his friendship. You can decide whether or not to take it. If you open the State of the Relationship (Is There a Relationship?) can of worms, but then you force him to make a yes-or-no, black-or-white decision which maybe he isn’t ready to make. Pretend you understand patience, and let him have some time.
My not-so-professional opinion is that Mike MAY be interested. He knows that he likes you as a person, that he enjoys hanging out with you, and that you guys have fun together. Friendship is on the bargaining table. You can take it and live with the fact that you like him and he hasn’t reciprocated. This means that you offer him only friendship. You are not always and completely emotionally and physically available to him – you do not have that kind of relationship. And see where it goes. Or, you can force him to have the discussion, get EVERYTHING out on the table, reduce your Technicolor world to black and white, and likely get rejected. It isn’t like you’ve been living in the Land of Uncertainty for months – a few weeks? Is it even that long? Again, patience. Would it so much hurt things to let an interesting friendship develop before you decide whether you have a LUV match?
Attraction is based on so much more than just looks, and if you review our former significant others en masse, you will notice that what I find attractive and what you find attractive – just physically – have little in common. Mentally what we find attractive in men is similar. Emotionally, not so much. So get OVER it.
Secondly, you do not always need to talk things to death. You are living in a Technicolor world with crazy mad shades of grey and green and blue and pink. I.e. – there ain’t no black and white. Mike’s vague comment after your not-date was certifiably applicable only to the date: it was not a date. End of story. You can extrapolate it back to mean that he isn’t interested, which may or may not be what he meant. But for right now, he has offered you his friendship. You can decide whether or not to take it. If you open the State of the Relationship (Is There a Relationship?) can of worms, but then you force him to make a yes-or-no, black-or-white decision which maybe he isn’t ready to make. Pretend you understand patience, and let him have some time.
My not-so-professional opinion is that Mike MAY be interested. He knows that he likes you as a person, that he enjoys hanging out with you, and that you guys have fun together. Friendship is on the bargaining table. You can take it and live with the fact that you like him and he hasn’t reciprocated. This means that you offer him only friendship. You are not always and completely emotionally and physically available to him – you do not have that kind of relationship. And see where it goes. Or, you can force him to have the discussion, get EVERYTHING out on the table, reduce your Technicolor world to black and white, and likely get rejected. It isn’t like you’ve been living in the Land of Uncertainty for months – a few weeks? Is it even that long? Again, patience. Would it so much hurt things to let an interesting friendship develop before you decide whether you have a LUV match?
04 February 2004
Woo-hoo! New blood! Hi, Daniel, even if you are whining. We are a little whiny – the moxie is not always pure.
Hmm. Let’s see. Comments.
Piracy: Not good. But the system is set up to reward breaking the rules and not thinking about the consequences. One of my long-standing favorite bands, groovelily, has all of their out-of-print albums available for download, as well as preview songs from each at their website: www.groovelily.com. How can you knock a band with an electric violin? Their previews encourage listening and ordering. I had a conversation with an off-moxie friend the other night, and as far as we could figure, DVDs can only be that much cheaper than CDs because movies make money in ways that music doesn’t – on the big screen, for example. Otherwise, why are CD prices so continuously high while DVDs have gotten so cheap?
Politics: I like Sharpton’s freshness. He’s not always with us here on this plane, but he brings new ideas into the debate. Incredible showing for him in SC, but Daniel’s right – driving through SC is pure torture. I’m okay with Kerry. I think he has what it will take for the long haul in this race, and I think he has the experience to calm the fears of Democrats wondering how he will handle our current messes. We liked the outside candidates for a start, when we were thinking from anger, but we really want ABB – anyone but Bush. I’m heartened by the results for Kucinich – he garnered 3% of the NoDak vote with no advertising money spent in the state. He did better in the SW states, where he spent some dough, but he did well in this amazingly conservative state! Rock the granola, baby. Tree-huggers and pacifists of the world UNITE!!!! Check out www.kucinich.us and see what the liberal pacifist movement has to offer the world. Oh, and I was one of the 308 people who voted for Dennis in the state. I realize that doesn’t sound like many, but there were only 10,500 or so votes cast in the Democratic caucus, so we really do count (population of ND: approx. 634,000. Governor: Republican). I am still thinking that a Franken-candidate may be our best bet for the future. Each of the original 11 candidates had something to offer, and if we combined their strengths, maybe we would get a fantastic leader. Does anyone think it would be a good idea for the winner of the nomination to choose a fellow candidate for his running mate? Hmmmm. Oh, and for the record, caucuses are cooler than primaries.
Life in general: busy at work. Cold and white outside. Inside of my house, I have two battling felines. They do get along, but we have constant boy-wrestling. To clarify, I’ve had my one cat for almost a year. He’s a year and a half old. The new guy is about 7 months old and he’s been with us three weeks. Cute creatures who are more amusing than television, especially lately. Lucky in love. I’ve actually been able to talk politics with the s.o., we don’t agree, and we can have a debate, a discussion, even a little argument, without feelings being smashed or crushed. The boy TALKS!!! They do exist, apparently. Unlike the other moxie-d folk on the blog, I do not work out. I walk to work, which gives me approximately a mile a day of exercise, but so be it. Better than nothing.
The best thing in the last week? Some people I’ve worked closely with (general public, not within my office) actually said Thank You for your help. We’ve more or less finished the project, or at least passed one of the biggest milestones in the process, and they said thanks. I love it. It is rare to feel appreciated in your work by the people that you help, and they made a point of it. It makes my soul smile.
Hmm. Let’s see. Comments.
Piracy: Not good. But the system is set up to reward breaking the rules and not thinking about the consequences. One of my long-standing favorite bands, groovelily, has all of their out-of-print albums available for download, as well as preview songs from each at their website: www.groovelily.com. How can you knock a band with an electric violin? Their previews encourage listening and ordering. I had a conversation with an off-moxie friend the other night, and as far as we could figure, DVDs can only be that much cheaper than CDs because movies make money in ways that music doesn’t – on the big screen, for example. Otherwise, why are CD prices so continuously high while DVDs have gotten so cheap?
Politics: I like Sharpton’s freshness. He’s not always with us here on this plane, but he brings new ideas into the debate. Incredible showing for him in SC, but Daniel’s right – driving through SC is pure torture. I’m okay with Kerry. I think he has what it will take for the long haul in this race, and I think he has the experience to calm the fears of Democrats wondering how he will handle our current messes. We liked the outside candidates for a start, when we were thinking from anger, but we really want ABB – anyone but Bush. I’m heartened by the results for Kucinich – he garnered 3% of the NoDak vote with no advertising money spent in the state. He did better in the SW states, where he spent some dough, but he did well in this amazingly conservative state! Rock the granola, baby. Tree-huggers and pacifists of the world UNITE!!!! Check out www.kucinich.us and see what the liberal pacifist movement has to offer the world. Oh, and I was one of the 308 people who voted for Dennis in the state. I realize that doesn’t sound like many, but there were only 10,500 or so votes cast in the Democratic caucus, so we really do count (population of ND: approx. 634,000. Governor: Republican). I am still thinking that a Franken-candidate may be our best bet for the future. Each of the original 11 candidates had something to offer, and if we combined their strengths, maybe we would get a fantastic leader. Does anyone think it would be a good idea for the winner of the nomination to choose a fellow candidate for his running mate? Hmmmm. Oh, and for the record, caucuses are cooler than primaries.
Life in general: busy at work. Cold and white outside. Inside of my house, I have two battling felines. They do get along, but we have constant boy-wrestling. To clarify, I’ve had my one cat for almost a year. He’s a year and a half old. The new guy is about 7 months old and he’s been with us three weeks. Cute creatures who are more amusing than television, especially lately. Lucky in love. I’ve actually been able to talk politics with the s.o., we don’t agree, and we can have a debate, a discussion, even a little argument, without feelings being smashed or crushed. The boy TALKS!!! They do exist, apparently. Unlike the other moxie-d folk on the blog, I do not work out. I walk to work, which gives me approximately a mile a day of exercise, but so be it. Better than nothing.
The best thing in the last week? Some people I’ve worked closely with (general public, not within my office) actually said Thank You for your help. We’ve more or less finished the project, or at least passed one of the biggest milestones in the process, and they said thanks. I love it. It is rare to feel appreciated in your work by the people that you help, and they made a point of it. It makes my soul smile.